In Search of Ecstasy

Ecstasy is more than just joy, it’s bliss. It’s a feeling of such intense elation, excitement and delight that the sheer pleasure of the experience might make you lose control, lose your sense of consciousness, your sense of self.

Ecstasy comes from the Latin ex-stasis, meaning to stand outside oneself – being “beside your self with joy.” It’s the peak experience where you sense the interconnectedness with everything and touch the divine.

Now you have an idea of where you’re going, forget about it. Focusing on the destination only encourages the inner critic to whine “Are we there yet?”

In tantra, it’s important to enjoy the journey.

Conventional sex is very goal oriented – orgasm is the objective and nothing else matters. In tantric sex, the emphasis is on the total experience, not just the orgasm.

Normally, we strive for high states of arousal, but tantra, helps you to stay in that state of excitement and then build up the intensity of the experience. The key is to stay relaxed in the heat of passion, instead of allowing the fire to reach its climax and burn out quickly.

What is an Orgasm Anyway?

Orgasms vary enormously from intense, genitally focused excitement to ecstatic experiences which encompass the whole body, mind, emotions and spirit.

In tantric sex, ejaculation isn’t very important. In fact it doesn’t even have to happen at all.

Tantric orgasms happen both physically and ‘energetically’, so both men and women can reach ecstatic states without ejaculating.

What is Tantra?

Tantra connects base, physical and sexual feelings with both human love and divine, spiritual love. Some people call it spiritual sexuality.

In the ancient Sanskrit, Tantra means loom or weaving. It’s a wonderful image for intertwining the masculine and feminine and evokes the idea of uniting body, mind and spirit.

Tantra is the sexual route to enlightenment, but it can also improve your sex life, even if you never reach nirvana.