Tantric Tips

Focus on your breath – your in breath takes you into your body and out of your mind.

If you close your eyes or use a blindfold, you take away your dominant sense and so your other senses become more noticeable.

If you feel stuck, move your body, exaggerate your movements

Open your mouth and use your voice. In childbirth, women naturally want to open their mouths and moan, shout, and make all kinds of noise. This really does help because the mouth and throat relate to yoni. An open mouth can enliven the other mouth, moaning and groaning adds even more pleasure. The opposite is also true - a tightly clenched jaw will reflect a tension in the pelvic area and make it harder for you to relax into your pleasure.

Pay attention to all your pleasure centres – your mouth, breasts, ears – discover which other parts of your body evokes erotic feelings. Don’t dash straight to yoni and vajra, take your time and explore the whole body, allowing yourself to build up the intensity of your experience.

The Love Muscle

One of the best ways of turning up the heat is to use your love muscle, This is the pubococcygeal or pc muscle, the muscle that you use to stop yourself urinating – the same muscle that the Tantrelle PelvicToner is designed to help you develop.

The pc muscle is really a series of overlapping muscle groups between the pubic bone and the base of the spine. It supports all the internal organs and acts like a bowl, supporting your life energy – and your sexual energy.

If the pc muscle is too slack, it can dull your appetite for life in general and sex in particular. It can cause depression, incontinence and impotence.

If the pc muscle is too tight, energy tends to bounce upwards, which makes people pushy, almost hysterical. You can feel cut off from your sexuality and think about sex more than you actually experience it. It can also lead to pre-mature ejaculation.

Any well-toned muscle needs to be exercised, and the pc muscle is no exception. The Tantrelle PelvicToner is specially designed for women who want to get the most from their pelvic floor exercises and can be very effective at toning even the flabbiest pc muscle. When you use the Tantrelle PelvicToner for just 10 minutes a day the improvement in your muscle tone can be dramatic.

But both men and women can practice squeezing and releasing the love muscle at any time. Like anything else, the more you practice, the easier it gets and the bigger the benefits.

Squeezing and releasing the pc muscle is known as the pc pump, and the very act of pumping this muscle brings blood, life and vibrancy to your whole sexual area. It lights the sexual fire, which is why it’s sometimes called the fire muscle. Using the pc pump at any point in your love-making adds more energy, more sexuality to whatever you are doing. It holds the key to intensifying and prolonging sexual pleasure.

This becomes even more noticeable when you add the breath – breathing in with the inward squeeze helps you to build up the sexual energy, breathing out as you release the muscle helps you to relax into your pleasure.

A woman can invite vajra into her yoni by pulling vajra in with each contraction. Once vajra is inside yoni, Shakti can create the rippling effect of an orgasm as she squeezes and releases her love muscle. This repetitive squeezing and releasing feels as if yoni is milking vajra. This is known as “pompoir.”

When a man squeezes his love muscle, his vajra moves up and down with every contraction and release. This feels like a gentle tapping inside yoni and can lead to an intimate conversation between yoni squeezing and vajra rising in response.

In any orgasm, the pc muscle contracts every 0.5 seconds – by its very nature, it’s an involuntary, reflex action. In tantric sex, the love muscle can be controlled, so that sometimes it contracts rapidly, sometimes slowly. The love muscles speak the secret language of love which deepens and enlivens your ecstatic tantric journey.

Ending the encounter

Just as you stepped out of ordinary reality, and made a deep connection with your beloved, so you need to step back into ordinary reality and make a separation between yourself and your partner (or your inner lover). So, you end this meeting with a namaste.

The Next Step.

This is just the beginning of your tantric journey.

Like yoga or any spiritual path, tantra takes practice. It also helps if you have a good teacher, someone who can show you the way.

If you’d like to find out about tantra courses and workshops visit www.shaktitantra.co.uk